I guess it's the way God knit me together, but "reunioning" plunges me into deep thought ... and the capacity to consume large quantities of coffee. Since it's Marriage Monday, I'll share one thought that bumped around in my head this weekend. I couldn't help but ask myself, "Have I done my husband good?" Life is so much about choices. We both could've ended up in other relationships, lived other lives. But we chose to do life together, and at markers like 20 reunions, it's good to ask, "Have I done him good?" O, I hope so!
But you don't have to wait for a 20 year reunion to ponder these things. In fact, I think it serves us well if consider questions like these early and often:
- Who is my husband, because of "me in his life"?
- How have we changed?
- What has he gained because of me?
- What have we done together?
Is his _____ better? Fill in the blank with words like: faith, reputation, character, health, confidence, experience, endurance. Have I lifted him up to help him be the "best him" he can be?
Fortunately, I know I'm NOT responsible for all my husband is. He has the Holy Spirit for that! But I'm that "helper suitable for him," (Genesis 2:18) that one who "brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life" (Proverbs 31:12). That's quite a calling, friends! Part of my mission in life as a wife is to "do him good" all of my life. That's what Marriage Mondays is all about.
Other than his relationship with God, a wife can be the best thing that ever happened to a man! When I've let my flesh rule me, instead of God's Spirit, I can be relieved to know God's grace covers my mistakes. God wants us to keep growing as a wife even more than we or our husband do. Besides that, there's always another reunion to come, and that means another day to ponder ... "Have I done my hubby good?"
Sometimes it's good for us to take time to name a way we've done our husbands good. We may not take time to remember that an excellent wife's worth is "far more than rubies" (Proverbs 31:10). If you're reading Marriage Mondays, then it shows you want to be a better wife. YOU are a gem! Right now, before you "click away," can you name one way you've "done your husband good" in his life? I know you can, and I'm praying you'll be encouraged as you do.