Marriage Mondays: How to Have a Real Fight

Every real marriage has conflict, but is it right to work it out on line? Couples like Ashton and Demi Tweeted for the world to hear their hang ups. Should Marriage Mondays be a place to air my dirty laundry or rally support when I'm licking my own wedded wounds? How do we have real fights in a virtual world? 


Should a couple's conflict be taken public or kept private? Some forms of media are public. While we wouldn't stand in Target housewares and yell over to our husband in Electronics, "You aren't meeting my needs!" ... somehow there are those who feel like they can post it as a status and feel okay about it. Other forms of media are on line, but they're private:  texting, emailing, direct messaging. Can life on line have a healthy place in a "real fight?" 

How to Have a Real Fight

1. See eye to eye. We communicate much with facial expressions and body language (Luke 6:41-43).
2. Hear each other. Our mouth speaks what fills our hearts (Luke 6:45).
3. Touch each other. Bring down walls of defense w/real touch that conveys a soft answer (Prov. 15:1).
4. Taste your words. Instead of impulsively spewing bitter words verbally or in writing, consider their taste (James 3:10-11). 
5. Smell sweet as you fight. "Walk in love" as a "fragrant aroma" to God (Eph. 5:1-2). 

   

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Real marriages encounter conflict. Women respect their husbands and men love their wives when we work out our differences with dignity off line. When it comes to conflict, let's keep it "real."

Today's Life Off Line Challenge:

1. Before you tweet or post something to or about your spouse, say it out loud.
2. Memorize Psalm 19:14 so the Holy Spirit has something to work with.

A Resource: For more inspiration and resources, online Christian colleges sometimes offer communication classes for couples.