tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post5971830946432665926..comments2023-10-21T05:40:49.590-04:00Comments on Come, Have a Peace: Marriage Mondays ~ Facebook & FaithfulnessComeHaveaPeacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18280944726198812447noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-13239194440991769692010-06-26T00:16:26.186-04:002010-06-26T00:16:26.186-04:00This is a very thought provoking article, Julie. ...This is a very thought provoking article, Julie. Remembering back to life without internet (circa 1998!), I was leary that we should even sign up for free dial-up internet since I knew of at least four couples whose marriages broke up after one or both spouses saw "greener pastures" in chat rooms. It seemed anything I had heard about the internet seemed way on the dark side.<br /><br />Our main reason for justifying internet service at that time was getting much needed info about our dd's allergies and health issues. I learned that the internet could be a real blessing. I also discovered christian home schooling websites and bulletin boards that were a blessing as well. It just grew from there!<br /><br />It is interesting that I just read this tonight, as I was having a conversation earlier this evening with my bil and his wife (he rarely gets on FB, his wife doesn't have a FB account)about FB and how it is so much fun to reconnect with people--when we were out this evening, they witnessed first hand when I ran into one of my bff's from my teenage years who I wouldn't have recognized had it not been for FB. As I also mentioned to my wonderful bil and sil, sometimes it's just plain interesting to sit back and "see the scenery" on FB--wondering why people post statuses or pictures or comments that they do. <br /><br />Just like your dh, mine rarely gets on FB. Neither of us are into the FB games or apps. We don't have the same FB friends, however we do readily share what is going on with our friends as if we don't personally know each other's friends, we know of them. I'm also trying to model safe and positive behavior for dd, and periodically take her through my FB friends and tell her the connections of people she doesn't know . She doesn't have a FB yet.<br /><br />Excellent post once again, Julie!Heidi Pocketbookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11312503490326882566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-74489055444853473992010-06-22T19:47:53.745-04:002010-06-22T19:47:53.745-04:00My hubby and I must be one of the few couples who ...My hubby and I must be one of the few couples who don't have a Facebook account! <br /><br />Even on my blog, I am very careful about not encouraging men to join my site! (It's my personal blog and it was created for the purpose of blessing and connecting with other Christian ladies!) <br /><br />I know it sounds archaic, but being above reproach is so important to me, especially as a pastor's wife. Since there is no way of knowing for sure who is honorable and who is not, I would prefer to ere on the side of caution! Know what I mean?Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404132037705136747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-49733993917400844212010-06-22T11:39:24.090-04:002010-06-22T11:39:24.090-04:00Great post! My hubby & I have Facebook account...Great post! My hubby & I have Facebook accounts. But, we also have each others passwords. We can get on each others Facebook at any time. This works great as an accountability tool for us. Also for accountability for internet usage, we use a Christian internet filter called Safe Eyes - http://www.internetsafety.com. It's awesome!Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04041782882288330053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-40114678691917818812010-06-22T09:32:29.434-04:002010-06-22T09:32:29.434-04:00I'm linking this to my FB page.I'm linking this to my FB page.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04238679303715431171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-28075539757375876892010-06-21T18:18:11.785-04:002010-06-21T18:18:11.785-04:00Wonderful article, Julie! I play FV, but try to po...Wonderful article, Julie! I play FV, but try to post encouraging, God uplifting posts. ;) As a writer, I play FB for some down time, but I'm realizing that it can suck quality time as well and know I have to be careful.Danie Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12603696064271340285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-59642451279498490672010-06-21T16:31:53.944-04:002010-06-21T16:31:53.944-04:00Just found your blog and I have really enjoyed you...Just found your blog and I have really enjoyed your posts.<br />I can't agree with you enough about this whole facebook thing. I had a facebook account for about a year, but just recently deactivated it because first of all it was a big time-waster for me, and also because my husband didn't really like the idea of the whole thing. So I decided my marriage was way more important to me than facebook. I have absolutely no regrets about deactivating it!<br />Thanks for the post,<br />Julianne :)Juliannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18088007727747970281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-41449850149765796072010-06-21T15:31:17.136-04:002010-06-21T15:31:17.136-04:00Kela, thanks for that great link! Trey was right ...Kela, thanks for that great link! Trey was right on in his perspective from the "male side" of the aisle. ;) Thanks for sharing and see you back at MM soon. I hope your Fathers Day was really sweet.<br /><br />Melanie, thanks for letting me know ... I'll go the other route. :)Julie@comehaveapeacehttp://www.comehaveapeace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-56482585061323814782010-06-21T14:54:38.488-04:002010-06-21T14:54:38.488-04:00Wonderful post! My husband and I sit side by side ...Wonderful post! My husband and I sit side by side when we're on our computers. We have full access to each other's accounts.<br />One other thing I'd like to mention, I feel that it's already in the heart of one to want to reconnect with people they shouldn't be OR airing dirty laundry. FB just makes it easier.<br />It's a matter of how we use any tool.<br />A few months ago I found this post: <br />http://treymorgan.net/10-facebook-rules-for-married-couples/<br /><br />Be blessed and I'll be back up with Marriage Monday next week!Kelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09074115439003700205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-87436761044389194232010-06-21T14:31:29.878-04:002010-06-21T14:31:29.878-04:00Hi Julie - First, I absolutely thought this post w...Hi Julie - First, I absolutely thought this post was spot - on. It's a topic I've been wanting to address, as well. You've given me some great things to think about. I LOVE how your focus is always on what's best for our relationship with Christ and what's best for our marriage relationship.<br /><br />While I think there is nothing wrong with facebook, I have chosen right now not to be on it. I just know that for many different reasons it's just not something i need in my life.<br /><br />On another note - I can't get your email to work, so could you email me at chitwoodmelanie@yahoo.com.<br /><br />blessings!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12328034216578039509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-5848665799003671032010-06-21T12:52:13.054-04:002010-06-21T12:52:13.054-04:00Such a good post! Being online has never been an i...Such a good post! Being online has never been an issue for us personally but this was a good reminder for me to think about things before I do them. I am sometimes too quick to respond and I could do with pausing for a bit and thinking things over before posting! Thanks Julie! :)Wonderfully Chaotichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09728034266881573591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-81680831007766170072010-06-21T12:35:36.707-04:002010-06-21T12:35:36.707-04:00Great ideas, Teri Lynne. I'm afraid our "...Great ideas, Teri Lynne. I'm afraid our "quick fingers" often get us into trouble. That "slow to speak" principle applies when hitting "send," too. <br /><br />Your mention of ministry contacts/work contacts is an important one. That is a topic for a whole discussion of its own ...<br /><br />So glad you shared.Julie@comehaveapeacehttp://www.comehaveapeace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-62457809868848621842010-06-21T12:28:30.046-04:002010-06-21T12:28:30.046-04:00I've observed a general lack of respect on soc...I've observed a general lack of respect on social media ... we "spout off" instead of measuring our words. I wonder, often, how someone would respond to their child speaking in the same manner as they so quickly type. I agree with Kristi too about the complaining nature of Facebook ... I'm quick to "hide" those who are always complaining.<br /><br />As for our marriage - we have each other's passwords and don't do direct messages with members of the opposite sex without including one another. Sometimes it's tricky because of Scott's job as a pastor - female church members or even other friends will DM him with a private matter. But we've determined that as quickly as possible he will meet the person face-to-face or encourage her to contact me or allow me to be a part of the dialog on FB.Teri Lynne Underwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369869269013586166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-19925240713879311922010-06-21T12:25:09.909-04:002010-06-21T12:25:09.909-04:00So glad to hear it. Social networking seems so new...So glad to hear it. Social networking seems so new that we just sort of let is "slip in" under our radar, without considering how it comes under the umbrella of God's truth.Julie@comehaveapeacehttp://www.comehaveapeace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-18128230800673980912010-06-21T11:15:39.620-04:002010-06-21T11:15:39.620-04:00Don't know that I've read a post on this t...Don't know that I've read a post on this topic - but yours is certainly timely and much needed! I'll be sharing it everywhere I can!Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03901952910404523187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-39025935595976160372010-06-21T11:06:12.431-04:002010-06-21T11:06:12.431-04:00Great comments, Julie!! I've also seen FB rea...Great comments, Julie!! I've also seen FB really promote a complaining spirit and gossip... not good! So true that we need to make sure our words are honoring and uplifting to God, to our husbands, and to anyone who reads them!Kristi Stephenshttp://www.krististephens.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-69355282367326151012010-06-21T10:50:10.548-04:002010-06-21T10:50:10.548-04:00You know what? We don't do social networking s...You know what? We don't do social networking such as Facebook, we have seen far too many problems come from it. I think your post is a great reminder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-83942751370672643002010-06-21T10:47:55.497-04:002010-06-21T10:47:55.497-04:00What a great post! I had an ex boy friend that wan...What a great post! I had an ex boy friend that wanted to be friends and at first I thought it would be ok, but then after thinking about it I realized it wasn't as I wouldn't want my husband to do the same. So i deleted. :D THank you so much! I'm sharing, too. Traci posted on Facebook and had to come read. :DSherry @ Lamp Unto My Feethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12997081715350310581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-73838297318227213592010-06-21T10:35:38.888-04:002010-06-21T10:35:38.888-04:00A very honest, practical, relevant post! Thanks s...A very honest, practical, relevant post! Thanks so much! I'm going to share this on Facebook.<br /><br />Do you have an account?<br /><br />Hugs,<br />TraciTraci Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05868420770414629597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-32659713951648876202010-06-21T08:19:21.229-04:002010-06-21T08:19:21.229-04:00first time reading your blog, enjoyed it much. I a...first time reading your blog, enjoyed it much. I agree with the whole facebook or just internet connecting period. It can be all such a good thing or bad. It is within our control of how we conduct ourselves....have a good day! Happy Monday...marlecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00907684675991124095noreply@blogger.com