tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post4571706350711742519..comments2023-10-21T05:40:49.590-04:00Comments on Come, Have a Peace: Book Review ~ 5 ConversationsComeHaveaPeacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18280944726198812447noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-58006848068046606862010-08-28T08:20:00.361-04:002010-08-28T08:20:00.361-04:00Happy Birthday Julie! I use Saturday mornings to c...Happy Birthday Julie! I use Saturday mornings to catch up on your posts so I am a few days late commenting. <br />Even though my daughter is still young I desire to raise her so that she knows the importance of remaining pure for her husband. I want her to focus on God's love for her rather than seeking love from guys before she is married. Thank you for sharing this book.Maryhttp://thecalmofhispresence.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-10758340127650273932010-08-27T10:37:44.702-04:002010-08-27T10:37:44.702-04:00You've got them. My general philosophy is thi...You've got them. My general philosophy is this: if I am the one to tell my girls about something I consider...what's the word...morally or ethically dicey, I am also the one who gets to set the tone, give the correct impression, and impart useful information. You'll know what to do when the time comes.Marieannehttp://i-am-souled-out.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-61851453402119029552010-08-27T08:45:27.725-04:002010-08-27T08:45:27.725-04:00No, just day camp! But a trip to Granny's thi...No, just day camp! But a trip to Granny's this weekend for a small family reunion, so there will be much time for wonderful conversation with all the ladies.<br /><br />I appreciate your thoughtful response and thanks for your kind words. When Carolanne (now 23) was in high school, we always talked about the enormous risks and dubious "benefits" of teen sexual behavior. During class discussions, she was usually alone in her insistence on the discussion of the negatives. God bless her, she stood firm.Marieannehttp://i-am-souled-out.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-25338028657879570592010-08-26T19:13:41.350-04:002010-08-26T19:13:41.350-04:00I am blessed with four amazing daughters who i lov...I am blessed with four amazing daughters who i love with all my heart. After the childhood book, each night before they go to sleep i tell them "I love them to the moon, stars and back again, never has this been more important than Novemember 6th 2008 when i lay my daughter to sleep, she never woke. I thank God with all my heart that m last words were ones of love xxxSara xhttp://walkingwithangels.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-75441031368199861432010-08-26T16:56:21.205-04:002010-08-26T16:56:21.205-04:00What a wonderful daughter you have!
I have two da...What a wonderful daughter you have!<br /><br />I have two daughters. I hope to encourage them by letting them know that with God's help, they CAN save themselves for their husbands. In today's society, people just expect teenagers to fall into sexual immorality. I also want them to know that I'm already praying for their future husbands to remain pure for their brides too.Teranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-62599064659674457082010-08-26T07:48:22.100-04:002010-08-26T07:48:22.100-04:00Happy birthday! What a sweet, sweet thing for you...Happy birthday! What a sweet, sweet thing for your daughter to do.<br /><br />Not coincidentally (since with God there is no such thing), Rosie (age 9) and I were discussing the topic of sexual behavior on the way to camp yesterday. We talked about making choices as to which way to behave, and which way we would like to be treated - as one to be respected and cherished, or as one to whom anyone may do as they please? We also discussed the fact that when someone looks at you and sees your physical beauty, they are still not seeing the whole YOU. They're just seeing the shell. I love that she initiates these conversations. <br /><br />+++++<br /><br />Now, concerning some of the data in Vicky's book - I was a little put off by the 40% pregnancy rate and the 25% STD rate. Both seemed awfully high to me so I did a bit of digging. <br /><br />The pregnancy number may come from a misreading of CDC's National Center for Health Care Statistics data, which state that the rate of pregnancy among women 15-19 *declined* by 40% from 1990 to 2005. The actual percentage is 41.9 live births per 1,000 women, or 4.2%. <br /><br />In terms of the STD rate, I also suspected a misreading. Again, according to the CDC, teens have half of all reported cases of STDs per year - but that doesn't mean half of all teens have STDs. For women in that age group, the numbers are higher than the general population, but along the lines of 3% (chlamydia), .7% (gonorrhea), and .01% (primary and secondary syphilis.)<br /><br />Horrible numbers, to be sure, but not nearly as discouraging as the 40% and 25% quoted. MUCH less discouraging! :)Marieannehttp://i-am-souled-out.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-21016897828002733482010-08-26T07:15:27.339-04:002010-08-26T07:15:27.339-04:00I love chatting with my daughter after school ever...I love chatting with my daughter after school everyday. She tells me all about her day and I get a chance to give her some advice about dealing with things in a nonthreatening way. She doesn't always think I know what I'm talking about but I'm praying that one day she'll realize it.Shannonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-25595683853974075982010-08-25T18:21:25.182-04:002010-08-25T18:21:25.182-04:00the one thing I wish my daughter knew about me ......the one thing I wish my daughter knew about me ....I wish she could tell I'm NOT perfect. She always says that I'm so beautiful and I'm a perfect mommy. She doesn't see my imperfections..though I do..She thinks I'm beautiful though I feel I'm not. My 9 year old is so innocent...I just don't want this world to ruin it.Tina Piperhttp://twitter.com/TinaPipernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-19878357041963160862010-08-25T17:24:12.614-04:002010-08-25T17:24:12.614-04:00One of my favorite things about my 9 year old daug...One of my favorite things about my 9 year old daughter is how she treats others. She will go out of her way to befriend the ones who don't seem to fit in with the crowd. This actually was also our most recent serious conversation. We were talking about the daughter of my best friend who is a large little girl and doesn't have many friends. I know my daughter hates it that she follows my daughter around all the time, but she's never unkind. We talked about how even at her age she can show the love of Christ to others. I'm so proud of her.Lisaadamsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-80512833514063644692010-08-25T16:18:41.855-04:002010-08-25T16:18:41.855-04:00Our meaningful conversations usually occur within ...Our meaningful conversations usually occur within a family context--there very well may be others around! I remember on Sunday evening at the Smokies game discussing with one of my daughters the wisdom of her deciding NOT to do a long distance dating relationship.Susan Unoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-6852135287593614562010-08-25T15:57:17.896-04:002010-08-25T15:57:17.896-04:00I am choosing to answer your question number 5.
Wh...I am choosing to answer your question number 5.<br />When you were a teenage girl, who had the most impact on the direction your life took?<br /><br />When I was a teenage girl. I lived in a home that unsafe. My sister was a runaway and the 'step' parent in my home was not a safe person to be left with. I met a young teenage girl at a bus stop who told me about God. I didn't believe her. After many conversations I began to think if HE is all knowing then HE would know where my sister was. I didn't trust that HE did but I wanted to test it.<br />I went to bed one night and prayed a prayer 'If you are GOD and you know everything then YOU know where my sister is. I want her in her bed in the morning. I want to see her ...if I can do that then I will believe you.' I fell asleep and in the middle of the night she had overdosed the police brought her home and I woke up to SEE 'my sister in her bed.' I had to believe God answered my prayer. A combination of people impacted me. The girl who told me about God, the youth pastor who told me God Loved me... but most of all God impacted me and met me where I needed to be met. If I had not learned to trust and believe I might have been in the street too... where my sister ended up.Sharon Onoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-36094688858626515272010-08-25T15:38:34.061-04:002010-08-25T15:38:34.061-04:00I love my relationship with my daughter because sh...I love my relationship with my daughter because she is also my friend. I am her mother but we also share our life together in our conversations, shopping or things we enjoy together. I wish my daughter knew about me - the love I have for her and I how much I want her to find her way in life by the lighted path of God. Not to look at the world and what it has to offer but what Jesus would have her to do with her life. When I was a teenager the people that had the most impact on my direction in life were our neighbors and friends. They glowed with the love of God in all of their lives. I looked at them and prayed that someday I could be like them and love others the way that they loved each other and everyone around them. You know the song - "Thank You" - the song talks about going to Heaven and seeing the one that lead them to Christ and thanking them for giving to the Lord - that they are the life that was changed. This song describes exactly how I feel about my Friends that lead me to the Lord; they didn't just talk the talk but they walked the walk. So thankful God put them into my life. <br /><br />Country MomPamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-49792689598961046872010-08-25T15:23:55.795-04:002010-08-25T15:23:55.795-04:00Unfortunately, when I was a teen girl ... and had ...Unfortunately, when I was a teen girl ... and had not yet been saved by Jesus ... my life direction was most influenced by my peers. As you can imagine, I now live with the consequences of choosing to follow them. God has certainly shown me much mercy and taught me many hard lessons! I am not shy about talking with young women (my own daughter included) about not following anyone's example or advice unless they are true, strong followers of Christ.New York Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-32112948566166753822010-08-25T15:03:05.393-04:002010-08-25T15:03:05.393-04:004. My father had the most impact on me growing up!...4. My father had the most impact on me growing up! He directed me in the field of study I currently work in now (health care) and really encourage me not to give up. I honestly struggled to be close to my mother, real closeness and that has me always praying for closeness with my girls. I tell them all the time they can talk to me about anything and that I am here for them.<br />Joanna RummelDavenjoy4noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-12118288932752009792010-08-25T14:53:46.868-04:002010-08-25T14:53:46.868-04:00When I was a teenager what most impacted me to wan...When I was a teenager what most impacted me to want to now God was my mother's example. She has always strived to live a Christ-like life and taught me to do the same. I can only hope and pray that I can be that kind of example for my daughters.Collettanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-32555672700179842392010-08-25T14:42:32.499-04:002010-08-25T14:42:32.499-04:00Question #1 makes me think of this morning. I hav...Question #1 makes me think of this morning. I have 2 beautiful young girls (5&7) and I love that they still enjoy my company. So what I love about my relationship with my daughters is that they are not yet embarrassed by me. I can still walk them to the bus, kiss them in front of their friends, and they still tell me about those difficult things in school. I have been eyeing Vicki's book debating when the best age to read it would be. I think the earlier the better. I want to be pro-active in my relationship with my children. Thank you for your blog.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-4565886683959113752010-08-25T14:28:35.590-04:002010-08-25T14:28:35.590-04:00The thing I love most about my relationship with m...The thing I love most about my relationship with my daughter is that she still considers "mommy-girl" time the best time of the day. Maybe that won't always be the case, but I'm hoping to keep at atmosphere where as she gets older we keep that openness.<br /><br />julesreffner(at)gmail(dot)comJulianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-61731953108913937082010-08-25T14:11:12.666-04:002010-08-25T14:11:12.666-04:00Julie,
As you know, I have two beautiful little...Julie, <br /> As you know, I have two beautiful little girls (very little at 22 months old), so it may seem slighty premature for me to be interested in this book right now. The truth is, since the minute they were born my heart has been heavy about my relationship with them and how I want so deeply to lead them to love Christ. I only wish that someone had intervined in my teenage (or childhood) life with the Lord's words and truth so that I may have been set free earlier. So, I am on a quest for knowledge in preparation for my little girls as the grow. Any other books you may have to suggest would be of great help! Thanks and I always enjoy your blog so,<br />ChrissyChrissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-55557983870180113072010-08-25T13:47:00.074-04:002010-08-25T13:47:00.074-04:00Happy Birthday, Julie!
One thing I love about m...Happy Birthday, Julie! <br /><br /> One thing I love about my teen daughter is that she has a sweet, servant's heart, but the best thing I love about our relationship is that she is willing to talk with me about the more serious things of God and what the Bible means. <br /><br />One thing that would have helped me to draw close to God as a teen would have been my parents(unbelievers) had let me go with my Christian friends to their church functions. It wasn't soon after that I had really gone astray!michellerosehttp://ladyswordandrose.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-33854936410359043472010-08-25T12:42:16.649-04:002010-08-25T12:42:16.649-04:00I don't have a daughter (yet) so I don't r...I don't have a daughter (yet) so I don't really need the book, but I still wanted to leave comment. Such a beautiful post, and Happy Birthday!! Mine was yesterday too. We both got breakfast in bed! =) Hope the rest of your day was just as special!rachel_erinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-21859556005202019472010-08-25T12:39:17.370-04:002010-08-25T12:39:17.370-04:00If you have a daughter, what do you love about you...If you have a daughter, what do you love about your relationship with her?<br />My daughter is approaching the teen years - in December she'll be 13 - and I have the blessing of having home-schooled her all along. I love her sense of humor, her heart to help others, her amazingly quick wit (from her Dad), and her willingness and ability to learn just about anything. She has taught me so much - as she is a secure, loving person that I was NOT when I was her age. I think she is an amazing young woman and I am so excited in seeing her grow in the Lord as she seeks His will for her life.<br />Thanks for an awesome give-away opportunity.<br />Blessings on the journeyDebhttp://nhwolfe.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-40283758346595879762010-08-25T12:21:47.151-04:002010-08-25T12:21:47.151-04:00My daughter will be 6 Sept 25. She has just start...My daughter will be 6 Sept 25. She has just started 1st grade. The thing I love most about my relationship with her is how much she teaches me about myself and she doesn't even know it. The last meaningful conversation we had was just this morning, about Honoring and Respecting God and the responsibility God has given to her dad (and my husband). I always want my daughter to know to honor and respect her dad no matter what I may be feeling at the time. I feel this is important. At this point, my daughter seems to know me pretty well. The other day I was crying because I was so overwhelmed with things to do and she brought me tissue and told me everything would be okay. Remember she is almost 6 and she knew exactly what I needed when my husband didn't. When I was a teenage girl, my dad had the most impact on my life. As the preacher's daughter, he helped me in so many ways to learn about a personal relationship with God, that I haven't fully understood until I had my own daughter. My prayer for my relationship with my daughter is that it will be closer than the one I had with my own mom. My relationship with my mom is closer now than it ever has and I am thankful, but I want a close relationship with my daughter along the way as she is growing. I want her to know she can always talk with me without being judged. Punished possibly, but I never want to be her judge. I hope this makes sense. I would love to join your bible study, but I don't believe I could make the commute. May God bless your upcoming study. I would like to thank Melanie Chitwood for having the link to your blog. I truly believe God directed me. THANKS.Robin in VAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-24637730252904327502010-08-25T11:40:41.934-04:002010-08-25T11:40:41.934-04:003) My daughter is 6years old. I wish she knew how ...3) My daughter is 6years old. I wish she knew how much I love her and how protective of her that I am. I wish she knew my greatest desire is that she doesn't go through the things that I went through though I am an overcome in Christ Jesus. I wish she knew that one of my greatest desires would be for her to be all that Christ intended for her to be.New Lifehttp://newlife-newone.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4230094183864536171.post-26509501418082610472010-08-25T11:15:01.591-04:002010-08-25T11:15:01.591-04:00Julie, thanks for the kind review! I will be prayi...Julie, thanks for the kind review! I will be praying for your group as you dive into the study. Keep me posted along the way! Would love to meet you gals at a future mother/daughter event. If there's not one close by, there is a scheduled simulcast in April, 2011. Thanks for rallying the moms w/ girls to counter the culture's influences! :)Vicki Courtneyhttp://www.vickicourtney.comnoreply@blogger.com